My transition has taught me quite a few things. Some of what I learned has been rather surprising. I hope that more doorways open up to new experiences as time moves forward.
One of the most important things regarding other people in my transition is how the cisgendered view the transgendered. Cisgendered people tend to see being trans as a simple action. If I were to sum it up in on word, then that word would be "do." Multiple people have asked me why I need to be a girl? What can I do as a girl that I cannot do as a guy? This shows how very little the cisgendered people of the world understand about what it is to be transgendered.
Transgenderism is not about doing. It is about being. It it a core part of one's self My transgendered nature is just as much a part of me as the limbs of my body. I do not sit there beat my left arm with my right arm. I do not try to sector off parts of my body from interacting with one another. Why should I do the same with my transgendered nature? Why does being transgendered have to be its own entity in comparison to the rest of my personality? People use coordination all the time with everything else in life. We all walk with two feet and eat with two hands. We all use two eyes to see. We never block any of these things from interacting with each other, so why must transgenderism have to be a lone wolf?
This was the most important thing I learned when coming to accept myself as a transgendered individual. The reason I fought with myself so hard in the past was because I was seeing my transgenderism as something foreign to the rest of me. Once I began to realize that being trans is just as a part of me as everything else, then I was able to finally find peace. No longer did I try to find the "thing" that made me trans. So what if I did not have signs from an early age. That does not matter. Mother nature obviously had other plans for me and expressed it through my maturation. Things happened how they happened. I should be grateful for my TG feelings. They helped me become the person I am today. Without them, I would still be quite immature.
